A man came to Hazrat 'Umar Ibn Al Khattab RA’ to complain about his wife. As he reached his door, he heard Umm Kulthoom RA 'Umar's RA wife, speaking harshly to him.
The man thought to himself, "I intended to complain about my wife to him, but he appears to be afflicted with the same problem I am experiencing."
He turned around and began to leave. Hazrat 'Umar RA noticed him leaving and called him back. When questioned about his visit, he explained, "I came to complain to you about my wife, but I overheard your wife and decided to leave."
Hazrat 'Umar RA explained, "I have adopted a forgiving nature towards her because of the rights she has upon me.
Firstly, she serves as a barrier between me and hell-fire and my heart is contented with her as she saves me from indulging in haraam.
Secondly, she protects my wealth when I leave my home.
Thirdly, she washes my clothes.
Fourthly, she attends to the upbringing of my children.
And fifthly, she cooks and prepares my food."
After hearing this, the man replied, "I enjoy the same benefits from my wife, but I have never overlooked her faults and shortcomings. In future, I shall do so."
Prophet pbuh said : “How does anyone of you beat his wife as he beats the stallion camel and then embrace (sleep with) her?” (Al-Bukhari)
The Prophet pbuh also said: ‘The believers who have the best manners are those who have the most perfect faith. The best amongst you are the best towards their wives.’
(Tirmidhi)