Muslim women should live by this hadith: The Prophet SAW said, "A woman who offers her fard salah, fasts the month of Ramadhan, protects her chastity, and obeys her husband, will enter jannah from whichever door she chooses."
And much debate has risen over this hadith and others like it. Haters would use it to defy the status of women in Islam. But they would have missed so valuable a point.
Allah SWT has made it simple for the woman. It is not degrading, but enlightening.Allah SWT knows the nature of women. He, ajja wa jal, is our creator. He knows what we need. And when we have husbands, good, Allah-fearing husbands, then He, SWT, has given us the formula that will make us happy in this life and happy in the next.
Some of us women work, some of us are in school, some look after their homes and children, and some of us subscribe to all of these roles. But the most important role, the one we should give top priority to, is the role of outstanding wife.
Years ago, my mother, like so many Muslim mothers read me the advice of Omama bint Alhareth to her daughter on her wedding day. I couldn't find a translation that does the Arabic justice, but there are 10 things that she mentioned that I have lived by since then. And Alhamdullilah, my marriage is now considered a mastered one; and one of my choosing.
She said:
"Be his slave, he will be yours""Be a good listener""Respect his judgment, his decisions""Do not let his eyes fall on anything filthy of you.""Be weary of his sleeping time""Be weary of his meal times""Be mindful of wasting his money; do not be cheap, but practice moderation""Do not disobey any of his orders""Do not share his secrets with anyone""Do not show happiness when he is sad, or sadness when he is happy"
Really, really reflect on these. How have you been living up to them? Have they become second nature to you so that you do them without even thinking? It has to be so. And if it is not, make it so! Start now. Mirror his moods, listen to his thoughts. Don't bother him when he's napping and make sure his supper is ready on time. Don't betray his confidence even to your best friend or your mother. Be his slave and he will be yours. Trust me, the formula works.
Marriage is an institution, it's a structure that provides for generations and generations. If your marriage is a happy one, the children that rise from it will be happy and they will have the techniques necessary to make their marriages happy ones as well. Marriage is the Sea. And in order to allow our individual marriages to flourish, grow, and prosper, we must stand on its sands and surrender.
My Faiths Goal
May Allah Ta’ala grant us His Love and the Love of Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) , such that it becomes easy to give up all sins and submit to His Obedience. May He protect us all from the mischief of nafs and Shaytaan. May He fill our hearts with Love, Adab, Akhlaq and Sabr for this beautiful Deen and inspire us in being a practical and good Muslims and be true role-models to our community.
"I want to die with my forehead on the ground,the sunnah in my heart,Allah on my mind, the Quran on my tongue & tears in my eyes."
Remember
Through the Zikr of Allah Ta’ala one may achieve recognition and Maarifat of Allah Ta’ala.
(Hadhrat Moulana Muhammad Zakariyyah rahmatullahi ‘alayh)
"if one lives for Allah alone love and peace would prevail in this world. When one is inspired by this,then whatever one does becomes devotion to Allah."
(Khwaja Nizamuddeen Auliya rahmatullahi ‘alayh)
(Hadhrat Moulana Muhammad Zakariyyah rahmatullahi ‘alayh)
"if one lives for Allah alone love and peace would prevail in this world. When one is inspired by this,then whatever one does becomes devotion to Allah."
(Khwaja Nizamuddeen Auliya rahmatullahi ‘alayh)
'Allah will aid a servant of His so long as the servant aids his brother.'
- Sahih Muslim
- Sahih Muslim
Light of Dawn
I wake with the light of the dawn whispering with joy in my heart and with praise on my lips. In stillness and twilight i stand before you bowing, prostating i call Allahu (swt).
My eyes see your beauty in the dawn's golden hues. My ears hear the thunder as it gloriies you. The rhythm of my heart beats the sound of your name. My breaths rise and fall with the tide of your praise. My soul knew and loved you before i was born and without your mercy is lost and fortorn.
Wherever i may wonder down the pathways of life, my cry to you Allah (swt), is "guide me to ligfht" through all fear and helpness, to you do i turn for your breath of healing and peacedo i yearn. For all that i have , my Allah (swt) all that i am is from you, is for you and to you will return. Inshallah
My eyes see your beauty in the dawn's golden hues. My ears hear the thunder as it gloriies you. The rhythm of my heart beats the sound of your name. My breaths rise and fall with the tide of your praise. My soul knew and loved you before i was born and without your mercy is lost and fortorn.
Wherever i may wonder down the pathways of life, my cry to you Allah (swt), is "guide me to ligfht" through all fear and helpness, to you do i turn for your breath of healing and peacedo i yearn. For all that i have , my Allah (swt) all that i am is from you, is for you and to you will return. Inshallah
In the following months biographies of the Companions of the Prophet (s.a.w) will be published..
